Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data. Kantor, Martin. Distancing: avoidant personality disorder / Martin Kantor. — Rev. and expanded p. cm. Distancing by Martin Kantor, , available at Book Depository with free delivery worldwide. : Distancing: guide to avoidance and avoidant personality disorder (): Martin Kantor: Books.

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Kantor takes us through the history of this disorder, and into clinical treatment rooms, to see and hear how avoidants think, feel, and recover.

Matt rated it it was ok Mar 26, Warren rated it liked it Jan 02, In just a few easy steps below, you can become an online reviewer. The second type avoid intimacy by drifting among numerous shallow relationships. Jun 17, Doan Huong rated it liked it.

Kantor is not listed on the roster of the American Psychoanalytic Association and does not appear to be a trained psychoanalyst. Understanding Depression in Men: Refresh and try again. First, I am troubled by the reviewer’s making a sequence out of “neurotic, borderline, and narcissistic” since he is mixing concepts that are on different levels of abstraction. For me this book is a real find. Sage Mystree rated it liked it Apr 02, It shows both subtle and overt misunderstanding of the field of personology, and is a paradigm of the triumph of emotion over logic as it veers from a dispassionate discussion of the issues at hand to a very personal attack on me that appears to be attempting to damage my professional reputation by calling me things like “arrogant” and “self-pitying.

You have 0 more Item. Review on Distancing From Amazon While this book touched on the main core of problems in AvPD Avoidant Personality Disorder and was very useful in that respect, adding in the information about its contribution to other disorders, as well as some examples, confused me.

Who is this patient? This is especially true for obsessives In chronic fatigue in avoidance this attack is an in-character sign that the patient wants to hurt another person, as is his or her style, simply because this other person tries to get close, and offer help. Comorbidity with Other Personality DisordersCause: I also asked myself if this was one of those reviews that was the product of a knee-jerk emotional response that, after the fact, looked for a relevant stimulus, in this case, without actually finding one.


With a straight face, Kantor quotes “Anxiety in males is ‘always ultimately a fear of castration'”. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. The bulk of Distancing is a confusing, almost stream-of-consciousness collection of personal experiences and clinical examples that the author finds annoying or offensive.

Kantor never explains why sales clerks who are reluctant to search the stockroom, people who carry expensive tote bags and individuals who prefer not to pick up dates at the gym are expressing “fear of closeness and commitment,” as opposed to fatigue, bad manners, or simply a normal personality that rubs the author the wrong way.

Flory says that “As a rule, there is no theoretical argument behind any of Kantor’s pronouncements. That is, I suggested that theirs is an avoidant removal and uncooperativeness taking place in the transference. If you would like to read more about this check out the Privacy Policy page. Rachel rated it did not like it Mar 17, Second, Flory fails to mention that according to the DSM-IV ” there appears to be a great deal of overlap between Avoidant Personality Disorder and [a number of other disorders]” p.

In conclusion, again paraphrasing Flory, this review is an embarrassment to its author and the field of book reviewing. I already dealt with finding people annoying or offensive above. Clare rated it it was ok Jul 05, It is a must-read for anyone who is interested in human interaction.

Distancing: Avoidant Personality Disorder, 2nd Edition

These descriptions include much aggressive and extrovert behaviour which directly distancinb the DSM diagnostic criteria. Alexandru rated it did not like it Oct 12, Book ratings by Goodreads.

The reviewer notes that there is a troubling overlap between my four types of avoidance and other disorders. The author spends a great deal of time describing the various presentations of Avoidant Personality Disorder, such that there is little, behaviorally, that is not explained in terms of APD.


Kantor describes the different therapeutic emphasis required disfancing the four types of avoidants, including those who are withdrawn due to shyness and social phobia, such as people who intensely fear public speaking; those who relate easily, widely, and well, but cannot sustain kantoor due to fear of closeness; those whose restlessness causes them to leave steady relationships, often without warning; and those who grow dependent on–and merge with–a single lover or family member and avoid relating to anyone else.

Boris Tsipenyuk rated it it was amazing Jul 05, I suppose the chronic withdrawal of “classic” APD is rather unspectacular, given the extent to which social interactions are avoided. Copyright – Antoine Online – All rights reserved.

There is a “mighty struggle” between kantro believers who identify a discrete syndrome and nonbelievers who do not” 4, emphasis in original. Published May 20, Since the idea of obnoxiousness didn’t come from me perhaps it was projected onto me.

Topics Libraries Unlimited Librarianship: David Flory is a writer and musician with a long-term interest in clinical psychology. Acceptance is feared as much as rejection, because avoidants fear compromising their identity and losing personal freedom.

It is in the nature of the beast that personology studies tend to paint less than rosy pictures of their subjects, some of whom themselves tend to be very immoral people.

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Flory criticized my definition, and now Flory is criticizing me for not distaning able to offer a definition. I asked myself if this review were a tirade by someone who has just had a very personal ox gored and will say or do anything to kill the messenger because he doesn’t like the message.

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